Relationship therapist Blessing CEO has attributed the failure of many modern marriages to excessive communication and social media usage.
In an interview with Instablog, she said that the breakdown of traditional community structures, which once helped resolve marital issues, has contributed to the problems facing modern marriages.
According to Blessing, women’s independence can be both a blessing and a curse in relationships.
She noted that while independence is empowering, it can also lead to women becoming too assertive or competitive, potentially threatening their husbands’ masculinity.
She advises women to maintain their femininity and softness, even in the face of success, to avoid pushing their husbands away.
She said women’s success can make their husbands feel insecure, not because of the achievements themselves, but because of the perceived threat to their masculinity.
She cautions that when women “drag shoulders” with their husbands, it can lead to infidelity or the end of the marriage.
“In our generation, because I am working and earning money, even if I am quarrelling with my husband, what do I need to go to my husband for? Once a woman becomes independent, they begin to rub shoulders with men.
“A lot of people say that whenever a woman becomes successful, the man becomes insecure. The truth is that no man is intimidated by your success; they are only afraid of the masculinity that comes with success.
“So women should always remember to be soft, no matter how much you have, because once you start to drag shoulders with your husband, he begins to cheat and look for a woman who is softer, or he leaves the marriage,” Blessing CEO said.
